We talk about Gretchen Rubin’s “Happiness Manifesto” today.
Most people want their kids to be happy – and we ourselves also want to be happy.
We are discussing the topic while trying to find out, what the most helpful parts we could implement in our own family.
We don’t have a lot of tipps –
but these are the points we’re mentioning in this episode:
* Set up Structure
* Get things done
* Give each other space
* stay in touch
* learn from the experience
Disappointment is good – we often need it!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-prime/201106/parenting-disappointment-is-good
Here the graph form big life journal:
https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/how-teach-problem-solving-strategies-kids-guide
This episode talks about one of the two most important skills kids actually should learn in school for a successful future.
It’s about learning how to be a good leader. _ An area most grown ups should keep learning about as well!
We talk about Hillary Frank’s book: “Weird parenting wins”
Here here book summary:
Weird Parenting Wins (2019) shows how not to lose it while bringing up your kids – all you nee is a little craziness. That means being creative and playful. Children approach life ready to deploy their imagination at every turn. And this book shows how you can be just as imaginative. You’ll find ways to make life easier for the whole family and even have fun in the process.
Here is a link to the baby sleep book, we talk about in this episode:
Harvey Karp
The Happiest Baby Guide to Great Sleep: Simple Solutions for Kids from Birth to 5 Years
Simple Solutions for Kids from Birth to 5 Years
https://www.thalia.de/shop/home/artikeldetails/ID33150695.html?ProvID=11000522&gclid=CjwKCAiA8ejuBRAaEiwAn-iJ3gv1x207LAUrmG9Ob_IhUpdDv1B_jdPvI9Q65XSDf7NZz04L1Tt-AxoC-sIQAvD_BwE
Philippa Perry wrote this book with this wonderfully long title. We are talking about it and are making some observations about our own up bringing.
People who should read this book:
Parents who want to improve their kid’s childhood,
Parents-to-be wishing to reduce the learning curve,
Your inner child
https://www.amazon.de/Book-Wish-Your-Parents-Children/dp/0241250994
Would wouldn’t like to have more self discipline? It probably would have been great if you’d had parents who taught you early – how to become this great disciplined person, you want your kids to be also!
https://www.pinterest.de/gurojason/powerful-words-infographics/?autologin=true
Do you think that it’s time for your – or your child’s life to change?? If your answer is yes – then have a listen.
Here the link to our discussion points:
How do you react when your kids wants to have – yet – another toy?
Your words might create connection or disconnection with your child.
Here the link to the article, we’re discussing:
https://www.pinterest.de/pin/53409945554763030/
Today we talk about a book with the title:
Small Animals – Parenthood in the Age of Fear by Kim Brooks – (link down below).
We talk about more things that one should do to create a positive family atmosphere.
Things we mention are:
* record those funny sentences that your kids come up with
* talk about your own childhood
* do some geocaching
* plant a tree
and sleep in a tent.
For more ideas you will have to listen!
Here is the link, we mentioned:
https://muttis-blog.net/42-einfache-ideen-fuer-guten-familienzusammenhalt/
And here is some of the points we talked about:
1. Have family meetings
2. play together
3. board games
4. computer games
5. shared meals
6. Good night stories
7. read a book together
8. coloring books
9. be creative
10. origami
11. be creative with toilet paper rolls
12. make an interview with your child
13. put messages into their lunch box
14. pyjama party
15. celebrate birthdays
16. have a spontaneous family party
17. movie nights
18. make a movie
19. watch older movies and photos
20. tell stories from earlier days
21. fill a jar with happy moments
Having some difficult conversations not only is part of any managers lift, but also starts at home – in the family.
Once your kids are old enough to be able to converse, you’ll benefit from having good talking and listening habits and you’ll teach your kids some very valuable lessons druing that process.
Here’s the link to the article we talk about:
https://www.judyringer.com/resources/articles/we-have-to-talk-a-stepbystep-checklist-for-difficult-conversations.php
Actually we’re talking about 13 phrases – and of course about our actual experience with them.
https://www.mother.ly/child/12-powerful-parenting-phrases-that-make-talking-to-kids-easier
We talk more „old school parenting“. This time we found an old newspaper article.
https://www.tripbeauty.com/twelve-rules-for-raising-children-an-old-column-by-ann-landers-so-true/
We talk about evergreen advice from Maria Montessori like:
1) Kids learn from their surroundings.
2) If you criticise your kid, it will learn how to judge.
3) If you praise your kid, it will learn how to appreciate others. ….
find the whole article here:
https://www.hftg.co/maria-montessori/
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Since one of your kids currently hasn’t found new friends at the new school yet, we pick up this issue and dare to talk about it.
Dr. Robyns Article (link below) serves as a resource!
If you’re looking for some good family ritual ideas that teach important lessons, than you can have a look at the link below and start listening as we talk about:
Rituals that teach responsibility, that promote kindness and compassion, that build strong family connection and that develop a sense of belonging.
https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/family-rituals-teaching-responsibility-positivity-kindness-compassion
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Originally we intended to talk about an article of suggested family rituals we could have. But then we only talked about our own successfully and not so successfully implemented rituals we have in our own family so far.
Ressources we mentioned:
– Link to funamo – the parenting software for your kids smartphone:
https://www.funamo.com/
– the poster I‘ve made for this summer‘s holidays
This time we talk about an article on a german website:
Things that parents should avoid are:
1. Surround your kid with people who are unable to show their feelings.
2. Do everything in order to prevent your kid from having any kind of disappointing experience.
3. Always have some substitutions in order to comfort your child.
4. Act as unpredictable as possible.
5. Don’t ever respect your child’s boundaries.
Here the link for all german speaking listeners:
https://www.brigitte.de/familie/mitfuehlen/erziehungsfehler–die-kinder-zu-tyrannen-machen-koennen-10809018.html
We still need to talk about one more love language – which we’re doing today:
– Acts of service
https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/connect-child-activities-love-languages
But since this would be a very short episode, we add another topic:
5 Essential ways how to create a growth mindset corner
So keep listening to find out – what the heck that is!
https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/steps-create-growth-mindset-corner
Even though we’ve been talking about the 5 love languages before, we’re now talking about it in detail! Find out about the five different ways of how to give and receive love within the family!
Today we talk about the first 4 different languages:
– Physical touch
– Words of affirmation
– Quality time
– Gifts
So – one more language remains to be talked about – but since we didn’t want to talk about it too long …. wait for the next episode! 🙂
https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/connect-child-activities-love-languages
link to the control-what-your-kid-does-on-their-smartphone-app:
https://www.funamo.com/
On a german website we just discoverd this list of 11 Things your should experience with your children.
It talks about going to the cemetary together, about fixing something as a family and other things like baking somthing or confronting a common fear!!
Let’s find out, what we as a family already have experienced!
https://www.wunderweib.de/11-dinge-die-eltern-mit-ihren-kindern-unternehmen-sollten-101085.html
We have to talking about the importance of „grit“ and a „growth mindset“ in the past. But today we’re expanding on this idea and we’re introducing several practical ways of how to improve and develop your child’s growth mindset – and of course your own as well.
In this second part we discuss more points like:
* Use the word „yet“
* keep on having goals
* take over ownership for your attitude
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We have to talking about the importance of „grit“ and a „growth mindset“ in the past. But today we’re expanding on this idea and we’re introducing several practical ways of how to improve and develop your childs growth mindset – and of course your own as well.
Here some point we discuss:
* Stop seeking approval
* Try different learning tactics
* Celebrate growth with others
* Reward actions, not traits.
The article we base our discussion on:
https://www.opencolleges.edu.au/informed/features/develop-a-growth-mindset/
We talk about yet another article, which we would like to implement indeed!
In case you’re also frustrated about your kids not getting along, screaming and fighting – you’ll have to listen in and get some creative ideas you should try out!
11 Sure-Fire Ways to Stop Sibling Fighting and to Encourage Kids to Get Along
This topic doesn’t just apply to parenting and children – but to all humans.
Communication shapes all of our lives.
But it becomes uncomfortable and disheartening, when certain communication sins are being committed:
1. Gossip
2. Judging
3. Being negative
4. Complaining
5. Making excuses
6. Exaggerating
7. Being dogmatic
https://www.businessinsider.de/julian-treasure-bad-speaking-habits-2014-7?r=US&IR=T
We also have made the experience of witnessing some of our kids talking negatively about themselves.
Most encouragement in the moment – doesn’t work. Here we talk about 7 different ways of how to strengthen and building up your child.
Here’s the link if you’d https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/negative-self-talk-child-says-dumb-stupid
by Big Life Jounral
Some skills aren’t being taught at school. So it’s all the more important for parents to find out, what kind of skill will be essential for their kids life.
Things we talk about:
1. How to ask good questions
2. Solving problems.
3. Tackling projects.
4. Finding passion.
5. Independence.
6. Being happy on one’s own.
7. Compassion.
8. Tolerance.
9. Dealing with change
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